What does it mean to be in love?


The other day I heard a line in a movie that stuck with me. I don’t know why it bothered me but it did. A character in the movie asked another character about "konwing" you were with the right person for you. The character replied "you just know."
 
That bothers me for some reason.
 
When and how do you know you are with the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with?
 
Personally I think it is at the moment you want to work for that relationship more then you are willing to let go and move on. I don’t mean staying wih someone becuase that is the easy thing to do. Good relationships don’t get built by "staying with someone." I mean the kind of putting of effort and work to make the relationship better.
 
Not becuase there are highs and lows, but rather becuase when things are running smoothly its the best place to be. It’s when you are willing to work harder then you ever have before and think about someone else first, then you are with the right person for you.
 
The moment of selflessness, when a selfless act means more in the long run then any number of selfish acts ever could.
 
So when do you know? When you are willing to put everything you have into making that relationship work.

2 thoughts on “What does it mean to be in love?

  1. I\’ve been thinking about this because of a comment a friend made in my blog the other day.  I was talking about brooding about Charles leaving me in the dust in parking lots in his hurry to get in out of the rain, and then one day he stopped and offered me his arm and said, "This way when I walk fast, I can drag you along with me so you won\’t feel left behind."  I said, "Did you know I was brooding about that?" and he said, "Sometimes I can tune into you."  It totally changed my outlook on the world.
     
    My friend commented that with her new boyfriend, he was a watcher and could tune into her moods, and she was working to be able to do the same with him.  With her last boyfriend, it seemed like they were working on coming up with a set of rules for each other that if they followed them would make each other happy.
     
    I was thinking about this post, and I was thinking that that was an aspect, too.  I mean, there\’s willingness to work on the relationship, but beyond that, there is working to come to a point where you understand each other enough that you can just *be* good for each other rather than working to learn the rules that result in harmony when you follow them religiously.
     
    Does that make sense?

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